We all have them. Whether they are public on social media, overflowing pinterest boards, shared facebook posts, tags kept from Yogi teabags or fortunes kept from all-knowing cookies that we've tucked in our wallets-- they're everywhere. I'm talking about quotes, of course.
These little life inspiring and advising messages can be found just about anywhere. It seems that everywhere you turn there is evidence of someone who has figured out how to do it better and then word it more efficiently than you. And as much as I LOVE inspirational messages, they can seem daunting at times.
I mean, am I supposed to be patient because what's meant to be will be? Or am I supposed to get up and go get it because, otherwise, I don't really want it?
Do I deserve a better love than what I currently have because, for a moment, I felt unhappy? Or do the best relationships come from never jumping ship?
It can be a little confusing to say the least.
So, who is right? Which one do we heed to and which do we call bullshit??
I'm afraid I don't have the answer to that one because what works for me won't always work for you. Maybe I need to get my ass up and hustle, and you need to sit your buns down and smell the roses.
I can however share a tool that has been working for me for the past couple of months. As a journaling venture, I select one quote or motivational message that speaks to me. Not just one I kind of agree with, either. I'm talking about the kind that you see posted and you immediately feel compelled to like it, comment on it and then, politely, inform the user that you will be #stealing it for yourself. You know exactly what I'm talking about, I'm sure. That quote that is delivered at the perfect time and pertains to the exact situation you are losing sleep over at night. Finding these are one of life's greatest tiny pleasures.
Now, instead of just copy + pasting to every social media outlet possible, I provide a home for these words is the pages of my personal thoughts and dreams. It's easy to be filled with emotion when you first read these quotes and then, almost instantly, go on a social media scavenger hunt for one that is similar.
You become an addict of words. Searching for the next literary hit instead of looking inside of yourself to see exactly why those particular words struck so deeply to begin with.
Slow down. Resist the 'pin', 'post' or 'search' button and apply the words to the newsfeed of your life and the wall of your beating heart.
Choose one and put it in your very own penmanship (in quotations, of course) and ask yourself what these words really mean to you. You will be pleasantly surprised by how therapeutic the process is and you just might learn a thing or two about you.
Here is the one I chose for myself this week:
This spoke to me for several reasons. We can ALL relate to feeling lost and, unfortunately, I have let my mind believe this notion for the majority of my adult life thus far. I decided to focus on this quote in my journal because of my previous journal entries. If I had a dollar for every time I wrote that I was 'so lost' in the pages of my journals, I'd have so many that I could probably buy myself the proper map to be found.
Let me just say that IT IS OKAY TO FEEL LOST.
I am not, by any means, taking away from the fact that this feeling is a very real and vital one. If you are feeling this way, it's beyond normal. And can even be crucial to discovering who you are and figuring out where you'd rather be.
For me, it was just time to redefine my current state of being. To many people, on paper, my life probably looks more directionless than it has ever been. I am in between jobs that are usually reserved for those in a transitional period but with no concrete plans of any kind of transition. I am following a childhood dream, that grew with me like an extended limb into adulthood, with a pocketful of hope and some jangling loose change. I have done the exact thing that every rational bone in my body warned me not to-- I have completely abandoned my comfort zone.
When I took my pen to the page, discussing feelings of being misplaced no longer suited the way I felt about my life. It was easy for me to justify, too. All it took was a few reassuring words from a brilliant writer and wise man who obviously took the time to figure out life to the best of his ability and expressed it in a way that will continue to transcend generations.
"Not all those who wander are lost."
-J. R. R. Tolkein
And I plan on wandering my way right into the feeling of finally being found.